Thursday, September 26, 2013

When We Made It Legal

Mr. McKay doesn't like public displays of affection... well on the internet at least. He's never pushed me off of him when I grope him in public.

Today is our anniversary and I am a 'shout it from the rooftops' sort of girl, because I sort of dig him.

So as I would completely embarrass him if I posted a gushing 'how much I love him' post on any of my “real” stuff, you get to be subjected here (he said it was okay, because he doesn't know you people).

I was going to say we have had four glorious years of marriage so far. But that would be a total lie. So, we have had four years of marriage so far. And they have been trying, with bits of fun interspersed.

I will tell you this, they would have been completely unbearable if I did not have him to wake up to every morning, or go to sleep with every night. Someone told us these trying years were character building, they would make us or break us. I am happy to say we are far from broken and I am only more convinced we were made for each other. I think as long as we keep finding each other funny we'll be fine.

Okay, enough mush. Let me tell you how this almost didn't end up being our anniversary- because we weren't quite sure we were legally married.

Our officiant was a recovering alcoholic/bartender that my husband used to work with. He was ordained online and had only performed a boat blessing before marrying us. He is still the most positive and just genuinely awesome guy I ever met- and he also looked legit enough for the parents and grandparents. We threw him a hundred bucks and told him to bring his wife with him to our reception. Our friends affectionately dubbed him Kato Kaelin (there are remarkable similarities in appearance).

We nervously had a conversation a few days before about what we would do if it wasn't actually legal. We decided we would just go to the court house and get married again in secret...

I remember thinking at the time that this was our first big decision we were making as a newly (almost) married couple. We both saw the importance in having our family and friends present while we made vows to each other. But whether it was technically 'legal' or not was a non-issue to both of us. All in all, it is just a piece of paper, it did not make anything between us more real- it just made us able to share health insurance and make filing our taxes confusing.

I will never forget the look on the woman's face at town hall when I went to request a copy of our marriage certificate. She said she found it and asked how many copies I wanted, my response was “For real? You have it?”

She was pretty confused, and I hope she wasn't looking out the window when I was jumping around in the parking lot calling my newlywed husband on my cell phone to tell him we were indeed newlywed!

Now for your listening enjoyment, the song we danced to for our official “First Dance”

I left it all up to Mr. McKay- he's the music nerd, I'm the book nerd.

And Mr. McKay- if you ventured over to read this- Thanks for making me feel like a lucky girl every day. You're a pretty cool dude to spend forever with.


  1. This is one of the more interesting wedding stories I've heard about. Congrats on your anniversary.

  2. Wishing you and Mr. McKay at 10 times as many Happy Anniversaries, Casey. Such a sweet and funny post, I hope he ventures over. He'd enjoy it too I'm sure.

  3. ah such a sweet and funny story, Casey. happy anniversary :)

  4. I LOVE your music! Between the two of you, you will make music/book nerds… :) Love your story Casey and your cake looks yum. Tell Mr. McKay he's a lucky dude. And I think you did ok too. Happy anniversary.

  5. Love this story, Casey! It is one of those you can embarrass your children with years from now. Even as the two of you have goofy grins on your faces.

    Happy Anniversary:)

    You should throw yourself a 'fake wedding' for your fifth anniversary. You know. Just to be sure ;)

  6. I love that song! And it's so you. Beautiful cake too. Happy happy happy anniversary!!

  7. Happy anniversary to you and Mr. McKay, Casey, and here's wishing you many, many more.

    P.S. In a couple of weeks my hubby and I will be celebrating our 36th, and we haven't killed each other, yet. Actually, we still sound a little like lovebirds (a sweet sound at first, but annoyingly repetitive after a bit for listeners).

  8. Thank you, Kathryn!

    Congratulations to you and your hubby! I hope we end up just like you one day- I think it's sweet :)

  9. Happy Belated Anniversary, Casey! You guys are awesome! If nothing else you create the best life stories together!