Thanks for coming by to read my Round Table post this week, if you haven't already, go on over to Spanking Romance Reviews for the main post when you are done here!
Before you get into reading this, I need to admit, I most likely have no idea what I am talking about. The idea of role playing intrigues me. But have I ever formally role played before? No. I have brought it up to my husband a few times, but he doesn't really seem convinced that he would like it.
Here are my reasons of why I would like to give it a try.
As a spanko who has a partner who isn't really into the whole spanking thing- I feel like this might make things a bit easier for us to get into it. I mean, think about it. If my husband can't really get his mind around the whole idea of spanking his wife, wouldn't it be easier to have a reason. Like say, the french maid he hired is totally slacking off, obviously he would have to spank her to keep her in line... see where I'm going with this?
Unfortunately Mr. McKay didn't really get it. He says he would laugh if I tried to 'give him lines'. Although, he thinks it would be hot if I wore a french maid outfit.
Which leads me to my second reason of why I would like to give role playing a try- Dressing Up!!! I think I have admitted before to having a lingerie fetish. I adore it, I adore shopping for it, I adore wearing it, I adore my husband's reaction when he sees me in it.
I am realizing now that I also think I have a french maid fixation. I guess this makes sense. I am into spanking, a dominant male turns me on, and I like the smell of Windex. Okay that last one is irrelevant, but a maid is a servant position, which means there would probably be some dominant person giving her orders. In my fantasies it's a hot alpha male, the maid is always incorrigible, and he never lets her get away with anything. I'm practically foaming at the mouth over here.
I don't think role playing is all about costumes and acting though. In a way, I feel like we might already be role playing without having really agreed upon it. We like to break out the kink when we really have the time. Nipple clamps, bondage, butt plugs, blind folds- all that fun stuff, and we are at a place right now where my husband will slip into a more dominant role in using all of those things. It didn't start out that way and the first time we use anything it is always a little less sexy “How is this working?” “Is it okay?” “Too much?” “Not enough?”
In the beginning these questions were every time, sort of taking us both out of the moment. It's not really all that fun if we are just talking the whole time. Yes, I think communication is key, but there is a time when you can ask and answer all these questions for each other, and I think that time should be before and after anything is actually going on.
So maybe it's not as much role playing as it is “being in the moment”. More of forgetting who we are for a few hours. We're not stressing over our day to day life. It's a few hours when we can just forget. We are just us, getting kinky, connecting on another level, and trusting each other.
I still really want a french maid outfit though. Or a beer wench, or a cute schoolgirl skirt... I am so glad the Halloween season is upon us! I think I'll do some shopping.
I'm also off to read everyone else's input on Role Playing (they probably actually know what they're talking about). Click the links to visit them all and join the discussion!