Thursday, April 23, 2015

Non-consensual Punishment Spankings~ Hotter in Fiction?

Last night I was having some spanky fun with the hubs. Like full out, sexy underwear the whole shebang. We've been super busy lately and it's taken a lot of fanfare out of the sex department, if you know what I mean. I own a lot of lingerie and I love wearing it. It really does make me feel more sexy and more confident, so it's a win win! 

I got home from work, ran a brush through my hair, popped my contacts in and applied some make up (yeah, I didn't wear any to work, but I put some on for sex- you see my priorities here). I dug out some cute crotchless panties that are really just an intricate pattern of strings in the back, I believe that they make my ass look amazing. I could be wrong, but I definitely feel amazing.


Not me- but pretty much what I felt like.


So I find Mr. McKay, I give him a sexy little strip tease and a little twirl. It's game on!

He pulls me forward by my waistband of my sexy, silky, lacy little panties and in my head I am all "Ack, they're going to rip!" (But really this is all my fault because I am always all, 'be more assertive, just throw me around- its hot!')

Anyway, us being us, I ended up jamming my toes into his foot and my toe nail sliced into the bottom of his foot (because really, no night is complete without a little blood shed). He yells out in pain and I'm all like "Why are you pulling on me?"

So then he smacks my ass, like super hard, and I am completely caught off guard and then get super indignant. "It was an accident!" I yell back at him, half angry and half pouting. I didn't mean to maim him in the process of getting our freak on.

And he just stops and looks at me, lifts his eyebrows as if to say "Really?"

Oh right, the whole point of the sexy underwear and everything was so he would spank me, which is what I want, which I keep telling him. And then here it is, one smack which I perceive to be 'real' and not in the contexts of playing and I'm ready to punch him. 
Again, I would not want to be married to me, it's probably super confusing...

I completely understand that I am wants and needs wrapped up in contradictions. But this is why we talk, right? 

He was actually very undeterred by my outraged response, he assured me he was fine and then pulled me down across his lap.

I just can't stop thinking today about my reaction. There is no better way to turn me on than with a spanking, but apparently if we're going to get real with it, you better duck because I may throw some punches.

Am I the only one who would have reacted like that? I mean I know a lot of people practicing Domestic Discipline have punishment spankings as a context in their relationship. But if that isn't your relationship and you are into spanking, does it piss you off when it gets too real?





21 comments:

  1. Amusing post as always. Context means everything. It wasn't the right context for a spanking.

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    1. thanks Cara! I agree, its all about the context!

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  2. I"m totally with you. This is why I couldn't do real DD, I would be an absolute basket case! Even quasi punishment can depress me. Context is absolutely everything.

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    1. Yes, I know you've said that before and we are so on the same page!

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  3. Excellent post! I can relate, totally :)

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  4. Casey, you should put that scene in a book.

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    1. It might end up in one of them, you never know! Although, I try to make my characters more coordinated, it is fantasy and all ;)

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  5. We're not into punishment and anything which gets close to real negativity is too much for me, regardless of the nature of the spanking.

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    1. I agree, it's too much to handle. Thanks for commenting!

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  6. Yes, absolutely hotter in fiction! I'm the same way as you are, I think -- I love a playful, sexy spanking (even when it's hard; maybe esp. when it's hard!), and lots of naughty talk. But cross that boundary into "I'm really punishing you" and watch me detonate. I think it's hot in fiction precisely because one can enjoy getting aroused while reading, thinking about the hot sex afterwards, but in the actual moment -- if it's actually no pleasure/all pain, that's a different animal entirely and not what makes me happy long term. I have a very conflicted feeling about DD and M/s relationships in general and to be honest, even though I "want" to be open minded and "to each their own", I just don't think it's good for a person's long-term mental and spiritual growth, self-esteem and feminism. Whew! As you can imagine, I'm not real popular on Fetlife. ;) Anyway, yes, agree with your initial comment - hotter in fiction for me! - Alexis

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    1. Yeah, I don't even really think it's so much about the pain as the mental space. Just thinking he was actually upset with me completely deflated me.

      Thanks for stopping by, Alexis!

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  7. Love this! I agree there's a difference, and the difference between play and punishment in my mind is intent. What was hubs trying to make you feel? I get smacks like that all the time, but I'm the sort of person who bumps into a chair, then apologizes. To the chair (like it has feelings or even cares if I bump into it or not).

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    1. I honestly think he was just joking around, he just took the moment to his advantage because we were seconds away from getting to the spanking anyway. It just threw me off when I thought he was really upset. It messed with my head!

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  8. Way hotter in fiction! It's all about fun and sex.

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  9. I agree with what pretty much everyone has said. Context is everything.

    I like reading and writing about DD but have absolutely no time for it in the real world. The only reason I want someone to spank me is because I really, really like spanking, Not to discipline me or modify my behaviour. Sounds like you husband handles it (and you) pretty well, though.

    And cut your toenails, woman. ;)

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    1. Have you been talking to Mr. McKay, your last line right there sounds like something he says to me all the time. I DO cut them, they're just sharp I guess. LOL

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  10. Different readers have different relationships with the authors.

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