I came home from work the other day and
found this post it stuck on the bathroom mirror.
My husband wasn't even home, so
obviously I didn't listen to the note, because who was I getting
naked for? I did turn around and go back into the bedroom to find
myself some sexier underwear.
I met him at a friends house later on
in the day and when we were alone whispered to him that I got his
note.
“You did? I thought you'd at least
send me a picture.”
I laughed at this. My husband receiving
a naked selfie of me while he was sitting on our friends' couch
watching football with them and their 3 year old? He's a nut.
I told him I did put on some sexy
underwear. Which lead to him grabbing and groping me every chance he
could get when no one was looking. (Or perhaps they were looking and
we are just those weird married friends that can't stop touching each
other.)
I keep coming back to the note though.
As silly and seemingly unromantic as it sounds- it gave me the
flutters. 1. He was thinking about me while we were apart, not only
thinking about me, but thinking about me naked. 2. He was telling me
something might happen between us later on that night.
I love the anticipation and the build
up to the moment.
I was reading this book about the
Victorian Era in England and there was a whole chapter about letter
writing. Specifically about people corresponding with the people they
were having extra-marital affairs with. If you get past the whole
'extra-marital affair' thing it is actually really romantic. I
understand they were writing letters because it was their only form
of communication. But I feel like you can convey so much more in the
written word that you might be too timid to say in person.
Personally, I feel like my husband and
I communicate more through text, emails, and notes than we might in
speaking. But we have always been like this, maybe because of the
generation we are from. When we were dating in high school we passed
notes in the hallway. College we had instant messenger and email. We
broke up for a while and rekindled our relationship through email. It
was safer, I wasn't up to a face to face rejection- but a simple
“Hey, I'm around if you want to meet up,” seemed to be a good ice
breaker. It gave us the space to talk things out before we jumped
back into a friendship and a possible relationship again.
The night before our wedding, my
husband wrote me a letter. I still think this was the most romantic
gesture ever, it came right from his heart and it makes me tear up
every time I read it. I of course was up half the night making a home
made guest book and stressing about a possible zit out break on my
chin- so my romantic letter writing gesture was not returned until a
few weeks later.
We don't make a habit of romantic
letter writing, our wedding was four years ago and that was the last
time either of us wrote the other a letter. Our post- it notes and
sexting may not be as romantic as Victorian letter writing, but it's
what makes us Us.
Odes and poems rhyming eye color with
various feelings might be some girls' cup of tea, but I'll take a
random “Wanna bang?” text any day of the week!
